If you’ve been following along in this series of the 5 Love Languages, you already know that we have been talking about the different ways individuals show and receive love emotionally. The ultimate goal in knowing the Love Languages is figuring out what language your spouse speaks so that you can show them love in a way that they will appreciate; in turn you and your relationship will benefit the rewards!  If this is your first introduction to the Love Languages, please start here.

This day in age (I sound like my grandma!) there are literally hundreds of things prying for our attention on a daily basis; work, school, children, emails, social media, t.v., and other commitments we all make. For someone who’s Love Language is Quality Time, it is important to them to “unplug” from the world and spend undistracted time with their loved one. It is important for them that at the end of a hard work day, their spouse looks them in the eye and asks them how their day was while genuinely being interested in every word out of their mouth. Their idea of quality time rarely consists on sitting in front of the television while you watch it together; you see, because it is the t.v. that gets your quality attention in this scenario. They want you to sit with them for a few minutes day and to take them out on a date night regularly -it doesn’t even have to be fancy!

How do I know my spouses Love Language you ask? Listen to the things they say (or perhaps complain about); this will tell you! Do they say “you never take me out”, “you’re always watching tv”, “I just want you to listen to me”, “lets eat dinner at the table” ? Some of these things are tips to what is important to your spouse.  To find out what your Love Language is, click here to take the test!

A key player in Quality Time is undivided attention and communication! If you suspect that your loved ones language is Quality Time, take a few minutes (or 30) today to unplug, look at each other, and have quality conversation. Try your best to pay attention and not be distracted. When you do this for someone who’s language is QT, you are filling up their metaphorical “Love Tank” with fuel that keeps the passion burning!

If you haven’t already, please read parts 1 and 2 of this series:

Words of Affirmation

Acts of Service